Another very important question question in the #AskNudeSophie series.
@ImmortaLXXIX: Is getting an erection taboo and is being spread eagle equally as taboo? What level of taboo is it as well? #asknudesophie
I think most nudist/naturists will answer this question the same way. Don’t show too much. If guys get an erection then it is proper etiquette to turn over, go into the water, or find someplace private. Ladies some leg separation is ok, but it’s not acceptable to put your genitals on full display. Any of us who have been nude in public for any period of time probably have experienced some kind of “taboo” physical action. Guys become erect, and women might spread their legs a little too far. It happens and it is completely natural. The way one handles these situations is what separates the natural and the taboo.
If a guy becomes aroused, it is something that happens. If he announces this fact, waves it around, or goes as far as pleasuring himself, he has gone beyond the boundaries of appropriate. This is not acceptable.
If a woman falls asleep and her legs drift, it is innocent. If she spreads them far, props up her knees, and appears like she is lure the glances of others, she has entered the sexual realm. These actions are not welcome in a clothing optional society.
However, there is another factor that I feel should be mentioned in this area. Becoming a positive member of the nudist community. If a group knows you, knows you are respectful, and would never act inappropriately, then any of these natural actions might not be seen so badly.
I will share a quick story about one of my little sister’s friends. When’s she was in her early teens she had a guy friend whose family was also clothing free. He was a very nice boy, came from a good family, and was respectful to others. And, like most teen boys, he suffered from chronic erections. Like all the time! At home, in school, on the beach. All the time. As you might expect, this caused him much grief. I’m sure he used a lot of energy trying to hide them or stop them all together. Normally, he would just need to lay belly down or go for a swim, but this would require him to be face down or in the water all the time. Fortunately for him, everyone knew him and everyone knew he was good and respectful. His naturist friends and family were willing to let him be erect and once it stopped being such a big deal, nobody noticed, and he stopped getting them (all the time).
Boys have penises and girls have vaginas and they do some pretty funny things. There is no way to hide them, so the way a naturist deals with them is the real difference maker. Don’t be inappropriate, don’t flaunt it, and build your reputation in the community. Achieve those guidelines and you will be free to be you.
I’d love to hear other’s opinions on this topic. And if you want to ask your own questions to be answered on this site send them to my Twitter page @TheNudeWriter and use the tag #AskNudeSophie